Posted by Zo on April 4, 2002, at 16:28:59
In reply to Re: ...YE OL' TIMERS UNITE! (long-ish) » kazoo, posted by wendy b. on April 2, 2002, at 9:31:32
>Part of learning how to deal with others might just be for people to be uncivil, have that pointed out by Dr Bob, and other members, and then work on appropriate alternate behaviors, and then keep posting.
Amen! I know I've gotten HUGE value out of Dr. Bob's form of correction, which never ever shames the correctee--which is really the only learning that "takes."
I have an inkling what--or shall I say who-- sparked recent concern about Negativity and "Attacks." I know I went over the line posting to Andyboy--but you really never know the Why. Why someone posts the things they do. Since I've been back on the board this spring, I don't recall at all seeing *real* attacks such as happened last fall. Maybe someone can point me to a link?
Here's the skinny on my "negative" post. I write a lot on on speaking truth to power as a woman. The night I posted to Andyboy, I was tired. . and without reallizing it, at a certain point went over the line into Writing, which is means to the general reader.
Of course it reads like I was talking to . . .and of course that was not civil. But I thought you might like to know what was actually going on with the "attacker."
I am guilty of and sorry for going off on one of my rants in the wrong venue, of not attending to the rules and honoring the real person, Andyboy. Writing is largely a matter of Going Into The Flow.
A difficult part of my illness is attending Mindfully to that flow. Hard to explain, but I hope my overall record here shows me not to be a "negative" poster!
Zo
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