Posted by Krazy Kat on March 14, 2002, at 9:23:50
In reply to Ugh, posted by JohnDoenut on March 13, 2002, at 11:33:48
John:
I'm not offended by your comment at all. I think it's sweet. You are responsible for each other now in many ways. But then, even though I'm 31, I am quite old-fashioned re: roles in relationships. I have found that even with gay friends, one person is more of a homemaker, one more of a bread-winner. It balances things out.
Have you talked to your new wife about this? Does she understand the pitfalls of depression?
My advice, being someone who goes through something very similar all the time (I'm Bipolar, so it's up, get lots accomplished, then down, get Nothing done), is to find one thing you enjoy and work towards it. If you really enjoy working out, maybe you should consider working at a gym.
I have had to learn to give up a lot of my intial presumptions about being "successful" because of this illness. The reward isn't how much money you make, it's in accomplishing something fulfilling on a regular basis. Those w/o depression don't understand how difficult that can be.
Also, perhaps you need an overhaul in meds. You shouldn't have to fight this hard for energy.
Good luck and let us know how you are. Nice to hear from you again.
- KK
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