Posted by JohnDoenut on March 2, 2002, at 23:54:34
In reply to I miss my life, posted by LiLi80 on February 27, 2002, at 19:07:09
Lili80 are you there? I havent seen any postings from you since this. Are you ok?! I hope you are ok. I will try to give you some helpful answers/suggestions.
> I had a wonderful boyfriend who i love so much. But then he didnt want me. He has a different reason why we broke up everytime I talk to him.
>It sounds like whats really important here is not what his answer is everytime you ask but that you just stop asking. I know this is hard and I've gone through this myself but believe me I know it hurts but youve just got to let go and forget about him. We cant be responsible for how other people behave or react, just ourselves.
The thing is that life is like a wheel, it goes around and we have good times and bad, up times and down. This is what it means to live in life, to be human. Part of growing as a person means making mistakes, its ok to make mistakes, to learn from them and move on. You will meet someone else again and you will have new friends again.
>Then i attempt , and there goes my life. Everyone leaves. I built a life at my college.
College is really the worst place to rely on forming any sort of long term life because of its really temporary nature. Yes its great when after college you can remain friends with those people that are still around.
>3 1/2 years forming a sorority that dropped me.
That really sucks but you know what, if thats the case then they were really a waste of your time. You probably got some good experience and learned some valuble things and now its time to move on.
>That was my life. I tried to be a good person. I thought I was nice. But I wasnt. According to him, I was an angry person. He made me feel like I did everything wrong. I feel like a failure. I am a failure , I have nothing.
>I think you need to evaluate all of this with a really good therapist if you have not done so already. A relationship is at least 50/50 and the other person is also responsible. Maybe he was a jerk! It didnt work out but that doesnt make you a failure. Remember I said that its a learning experience and you can take what you learned to better your chances of success in the future. Entreprenuers say you havent really tried unless you failed many times. There is no success without risk or failure. I hate to say this but when life hands you lemons, make lemonade! And when all else fails, there's no harm in talking to a pdoc about medications. :)
>I was gonna go bowling tonight , then i realized who would talk to me. I 'm a worthless piece of scum that no one wants to be around. I go to these boards for what? Help? NO I go because no one hear will find out the real me. The real me is a horrible person who cant keep a bf or any of her friends. They are all happy, I am not. Conclusion= I am the problem.
>Please keep in mind what I said above regarding all this and try to find a good therapist/pdoc to talk to.
JohnD
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