Posted by IsoM on January 10, 2002, at 1:49:00
In reply to divorce one's family?, posted by sid on January 9, 2002, at 23:32:21
Sid, so many people seem to have trouble separating themselves emotionally from family members & guilt about not keeping in contact because they're still family & blood being thicker than water, blah, blah, blah.
It makes me feel like I'm some sort of cold, insensitive thing because I don't 'give a damn' if someone's related to me or not. If I don't like them for a sound reason, I stay away from them.
My two brothers are a real pain. Not horrible like your sister is, just a pain in the butt. They have qualitites that I wouldn't put up with in friends - I'd never visit or talk with them normally if they weren't family. But because they're not really terrible people, I don't dislike them - I just don't get on socially with them. So I keep in contact as there's a degree of loyalty as siblings among us & a family history. We help each other as needed & care for the basics. But personality-wise, we're totally different from each other with completely different values & interests too.
If I was in your shoes, I'd say you were better off not having any contact with them except what was absolutely necessary. How's your parents fit in with all this? Are they for or against you? Or do they even care one way or the other? It's while parents are still alive that it's hard to completely avoid your siblings.
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