Posted by Anna Laura on July 9, 2001, at 9:43:28
In reply to How do you interview your shrink!!?, posted by kid_A on July 8, 2001, at 18:12:33
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> The biggest problem I have had w/ talk therapy is feeling like my therapist was a flake or had some belief system that was not within my mindframe or whathaveyou...
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> How do you find the right one; trial and error? Thats how everyone I know has done it... I mean is it unnatural for you to ask the therapist to tell you a bit about *themselves* ...?
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> Anyone here 'dump' there therapist because they just didnt 'get it'...?
Hi Kid,
I did dump a lots of therapists for many reasons: i.e. if "they didn't get it "(i think it depends on both intelligence and sensitiveness).
Another reason was competion:as soon as they realize i know a lot about psychology, they start to feel uneasy and get competitive with me, trying to say bad things about me indirectly, mainly giving me psychological "interpretations" full of contempt/hate. One therapist last year actually STOLD my insights! He told his counselor, the therapist "above" him that he was maturing since he was having deep insights: the superior was very happy with him ; it's a nice thing, but, for Christ's sake, those insights were mine!!!! I know it sounds incredible but that's the bare truth.
The last time i saw him he told me: "you gotta realize you're very very fragile" (the last thing i wanted to hear, made me paranoid, i started thinking i couldn't control any part of my life whatsoever).
Then he added: "i realize i can't do anything for you, so i'll redirect you to another guy: he's very very good with desperate clinical cases like yours: he cured people with dementia, schizophrenia, etc..." (Thank you again!!!! Now i feel better!!!).
Needless to say, i walked away from his office never to return. Another time he got envious because i quoted a phrase in latin. He told me : "It should be nice to know that language, you're very fortunate 'cause you had the opportunity to study it" His eyes were full of hatred and envy while he was saying this: he was trying to disguise it with a smile.
Well, i'm sick and tired of this s***.
The next time i'll be listening to my istinct: it rarely fails to detect the right person for me.
My last mistake was with a psychopharmacologist: the guy answered the phone and held conversations while i was there : he knew i drove almost 200 miles to get there, but that was unimportant for him i guess.
When i noticed he was prescribing me he same, old TCA, just slightly different from the one i was taking, i asked him why i couldn't try MAOI or psychostimulants/dopaminergic drugs. His answer was: since you didn't get a full response on TCA, the you're not supposed to have any success in any other drug.
He added i could call him just on Tuesday at five pm.....so i waited and waited until the following Tuesday: i was expecting him to ask me a few question about the effects of the meds i was on: nothing of the sort. He just told me to call him back at six p.m. 'cause he was busy at the time. I waited patiently until six. When i called him back he had a loathing, paternalistic voice (it sounded like he thought i was retarded). He told me: "Add one tablet, do you understand? You have to add another tablet of ***** in the morning" "I'm not stupid Doctor, i understand!" i replied.
"It's very very important that you add that pill because this is no picnic, it's a very serious thing, understand?" He added. He told me to call him back in about two weeks.
This time he was totally different: i told him i hadn't any positive results; he got kind of angry and told me: "You're supposed to react! You have to go out instead of staying on the computer all the day through!!!"
"But this is my job also!"
"I don't care! Do something else! I'd be much happier to hear you're a life guard "
I hung up never to call him again.
You now what? I never trusted this guy: as soon as i got in his office ,looked at his face, heard his voice (a voice can tell you a lot of things by istinct), i knew that he wasn't fit to
satisfy my needs.
poster:Anna Laura
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