Posted by Roo on June 18, 2001, at 8:21:44
In reply to Re: Am I just too depressed to committ -Roo, posted by Kristi on June 15, 2001, at 18:55:44
Kristi--
It's good that you know that about yourself right
now though. Even though your boyfriend is hurt
right now, I wish that when my boyfriend had first
asked me to marry him that I would have thought it
through more and said "i'm not ready for that right
now"...I didn't really know that's how I felt until
I had already said 'yes' and then started feeling so
anxious and unsure. I caused so much more pain by
not knowing how I felt and then changing my mind. My
boyfriend felt like he'd had the rug pulled out from
under him. I think his family felt betrayed too, because
they had started looking at me as part of the family.
I think they still don't trust me, and they probably
shouldn't. I think you did the right thing by saying
no, and knowing you weren't ready for that big of a
committment yet. I know it hurts though. But you
were brave and stuck to your own inner truth.
poster:Roo
thread:6456
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