Posted by Diane J. on June 17, 2001, at 18:57:47
In reply to Re: Especially not them!, posted by Dr. Bob on June 17, 2001, at 17:28:52
> It's hard on each side sometimes. Good for you for mentioning it again (and for bringing it up in the first place). It does sound like he had some kind of emotional reaction that got in the way of him discussing it further with you. Which is too bad.
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> Bob
Dr. Bob,My ex-therapist claimed that therapy was "a safe place." She would occasionally remind me of that psychological ideal, but that's all it was with her - an ideal - something one is taught in school. I learned to be very careful about what I revealed to Dr. H - either she would give me the "I can't believe you just said that" look or she would get really angry at me. I know she thought there was a great difference between herself and the patients - she was a healthy, normal human being and we were pathetic weirdos. I grew to believe it. I came to sessions and told her exactly what she wanted to hear - that she was wonderful and she was helping me. If I inadvertently forgot that and criticized her I would have h*** to pay. Eventually I realized all my problems were happening WITHIN therapy and not outside. I left Dr. H and a few months later my psychiatrist referred me to Dr. C. I am continually amazed at how helpful therapy can be when you find a supportive, caring therapist who doesn't mind being a human being like the rest of us. and knows how to treat people with dignity.
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