Posted by Shar on March 8, 2001, at 19:51:09
In reply to Re: NO Part of Me Doesn't Want to Get Well » shar, posted by Todd on February 28, 2001, at 1:59:01
You wrote...
>Those fears were put in place to keep you safe in your childhood environment. ... Part of you (and me, and everyone for that matter) still clings to those fears because they keep you safe. That's why there is a part of all of us that still clings to those fears and doesn't want to get well
>Unconsciously, those fears are firmly in place, keeping us repeating the same patterns over and over again. ....
>CHOOSE how you wish to act instead of running on fear-influenced autopilot.
Todd--I think we differ in that I don't believe I (me, myself and) cling to fears, I believe in the past I've held onto SURVIVAL behaviors...which as you alluded to, don't help a lot in adult relationships. One can say well there is a precursor to any survival behavior, but the thing I keep repeating is the survival behavior. The precursor is a fear that will probably never go away, that probably occurred on a pre-verbal level, and it does not have to go away. I can and will understand my survival behavior, and either let it go or tailor it to better fit my current environment.
So, IMHO we still don't want to stay unwell, consciously or unconsciously. However, as Shakey said, "There are more things in Heaven and earth, than or dreamt of.....etc....." It is an empirically unanswerable question, that (as I said in my post) boils down to opinion, and it could well be that believing makes it so--believe one wants to stay unwell and one will, believe one does not want to stay unwell and one will not. Quien sabe?
My unhappiness and displeasure about hearing the statement, and that someone would make the statement, and how I believe it is a slap in the face to people, is unremitting.
Shar
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