Posted by willow on February 14, 2001, at 20:19:16
In reply to to dj, posted by judy1 on February 14, 2001, at 18:26:19
" ... terminating our relationship. I was completely devastated ... "
I think this adds to the "blue shirt thread," I wonder how much we are emotionally attached to our therapists? This is my first that I chose to see counsellor outside of the one I had to see as a teenager. This is what bothers me about the therapy issue, because it is only natural to feel some attachment. I guess it would be easier to think of them as grandparents (they listen better than parents) or a trusted teacher. My problem is I probably see mine as a peer, sortof friend. And it's hard not to. Mine will give examples of something he has done and that is the same type of exchange I have with close friends, even if the exchange isn't at the same level exactly. (His are of a more general nature.)
When I tell someone something about myself that I haven't shared with anyone else I'm trusting them and making myself vulnerable. I don't think normally we would do that with just anyone but a trusted friend. So if the therapist terminates the relationship it would be similar to losing an intimate friend, it would be devastating. I don't like making myself vulnerable like this to a real stranger. Am I making any sense? I've probably been through this already with RZip I think.
PS Does Rzip post regularly? Haven't seen anything for two days. Probably withdrawal! : )
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