Posted by mars on January 21, 2001, at 19:39:09
In reply to Re: I'm going crazy-Mary, posted by tina on January 21, 2001, at 14:39:04
Tina, I remember when that happened to me. He was my oldest friend - I'd known him for twenty years. I can't imagine anyone not having a hard time with it, babe. I was beside myself.
It took time. I aked him for a divorce, which he hadn't expected, but which for me was the best decision in the long run. I eventually had to take a month of medical leave from work and just collapse - I was screwing up work, kept calling in sick, so my mangager insisted on it (and I was still pretty new at my job). I talked to friends, who were good and helped by calling him all sorts of names. I cried my ass off. I increased my lithium and my parnate (same pdoc I have now.)
I tried to treat myself to little things that weren't self-destructive. I forced myself to get out of the house - went to parks, went on ferry rides, sat and stared off into the distance. I went to tons of movies. I kept telling myself that I was better off without him - he'd never been all that supportive of what I was going through, even though the whole time I've known him I'd been clear about my depression. I found people to spend the holidays with. It may sound trite, but I took things one day at a time. And I told him just how much he had hurt me.
Who do you have to talk to? What's your situation like?
I'll be thinking of you, and I'll be around psycho-babble. You are welcome to vent. Venting helped me a lot.
mary
> Husband just informed me that he has been having an affair. The rest I'm sure you can guess.
> I am having a really hard time with this. I feel like my head is going to spiral and there's a hole forming under me and I'm being sucked into it. I'm going psychotic.
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