Posted by tdaneen on January 11, 2001, at 15:02:13
In reply to Re: Pro-choice, posted by shar on January 11, 2001, at 12:08:33
Shar! I didn't know Elvis wrote a song about you !
Just kidding. Long time no talk! Anyway I have a story it is true. It is a story about the tiny blessings we can still be given even when we make a choice that has dire concequences.
I've waited a long time to share what happened to me.
I've not spoken about it, but I have had one pregnancy terminated. My Catholic husband didn't want the baby, and I didn't want to lose my husband.
I had a friend drive me to the clinic which was over three hours away.
I was ok until I got on the table for the procedure. You see, I am an inscest survivor. I started having flashbacks, and they had to give me a "cocktail." The medication was too much for me, and I became very sick from it. I remember I was crying, and crying....afterwords they got me up and walked me to a recovery area that had reclining chairs in it. There were six or eight other women there. I was still crying and crying...next to me was this woman/girl...she must have been as drugged up as I was, but she just saw how upset I was. She reached out her hand to me, and I held her hand as I cried.
I never knew her name, or really what she even looked like.
I've never had many woman friends. In fact it was a male friend who drove me to the clinic that day. I had never known such a pure, selfless gesture. Someone who must have been in pain themselves, reaching to comfort someone else. It made an enormous impact on me. I will forever remember her, whoever she was, and will always wonder if she had any idea how much she comforted me that day.
I made a promise to myself. If I ever saw another woman hurtin I would think of "her," and reach out. I've never been a "sisterhood" kind of gal, but I learned a valuable lesson.
I've always wanted a way to thank her...I guess that just telling my story is a way.
Thanks for listening.
poster:tdaneen
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