Posted by Dr. Bob on November 22, 2000, at 0:53:20
In reply to Re: Debriefing with Noa, posted by Mark H. on November 21, 2000, at 22:37:56
> There is an element here among the wounded ... who respond to dark humor, and perhaps we experience a bit of resentment about certain types of unrestrained behavior because we suck it up all day long every day and avoid lashing out at those who may deserve it.
Humor is fine, but not if it involves, or could be perceived to involve, making fun of others. In other words, please suck it up here, too. :-)
> We need ... compassion here, but we also need lots of people who don't put up with bad behavior. To me, it is not kind to coddle the level of self-indulgence that some people bring to this board. This may be the only place in their lives where they're challenged to take some accountability and responsibility for themselves. To some people at some times, "knock it off" is the most loving, compassionate thing you can say.
Again, please be careful not to put pressure on others.
I think it works out nicely if I deal with "bad behavior" ("maintain the therapeutic milieu") and the members of the group provide the support and education. It's a kind of division of labor.
Some people aren't open to support and education. They won't benefit from being here. I think we need to accept that this board can't be all things to all people.
Bob
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