Posted by Rainwoman on November 7, 2000, at 14:13:07
In reply to Re: problems w/ co-worker, posted by kellyR. on November 7, 2000, at 11:39:47
> > I seem to have a problem W/ one of my co-worker,she is always telling me that I'm doing things wrong,I worked at this place longer than she has, I no what I'm doing,not great but it gets done. And sometimes I have a hard time at work w/ all my problems & meds it makes work hard.She is the only one that has a problem w/ me.Do I tell her off or just live w/ it?
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> Do you think that it would make more problems? She is very revengeful person,said something to the head nurse on floor & it made it real bad for sometime.I could go to the big cheese but she would like to see you work things like this out w/ the nurse on the floor,She wouldn't be back for one week.Kelly--
Tee hee, I like Christina's suggestion! OK, OK, how 'bout this,
while you are thinking "F&*( Off", lie out your ass. If she is a
defensive person, maybe starting out with "I value our work relationship,
(your nose is 4 inches long now) and I hope you do to (6 inches and counting),
which is why I feel like I can talk with you about this. I'm sure you mean well,
(getting pretty big now, but not quite up her butt, because you have the
F&*( off still in your brain) but I work very hard to do my best,
and where of course I can handle constructive critisism, continuous critism
is kind of hard to handle. Like I said, I know you mean well, but it's been
bothering me, so I wanted to mention it."I mean tailor it to what is comfortable for you, but make it clear you don't want to jeopordize
you work relationship, even if it is a stark lie. It's called politics. I think you can handle this. If you end up
having to consult the head nurse, you conducted yourself in a professional manner, and you should
be proud of yourself. Hopefully, the witch with the B will appreciate the fact that
you respected her enough to speak with her without involving m-ment. That isn't a guarantee
though. Some people are just stupid. Either way, what do you have to lose? If it works, you don't have to
involve m-ment. If it doesn't you go to m-ment and tell them you attempted to handle it unsuccessfully, and that is why you are coming to them. You can at least get credit for doing that! But, if you just go to m-ment without trying, you don't get to have the pride of attempting to handle a situation in a respectable manner on your own, and let m-ment know you did try. You sound like a smart girl. If you are so far down, don't attempt it.Either way you decide to go, keep in mind, if you approach her on your own and it does not work, YOU DID THE RIGHT THING AND YOU HAVE NOTHING TO FEEL BAD ABOUT. BE PROUD OF YOURSELF FOR HANDLING THIS IN A PROFESSIONAL MANNER YOURSELF. Just because you do the right thing, doesn't mean everybody else is. You are only accountable to yourself, not for other peoples' actions.
If neither works, kick her @$%!!Let us know how it goes!
Michele
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