Posted by JaneST on September 10, 2000, at 22:45:22
In reply to Re: Kinda worried, posted by allisonm on September 10, 2000, at 19:15:46
Allison:
Just some thoughts here...I'm curious as to how this subject of leave was left between you and your supervisor...did she give you a specific time/meeting/etc. to let her know your decision or was it thrown out on the table in a hypothetical way? Sounds as though the stress and 'tenseness' is getting to her, too.
IMHO, if there was not a definite 'get back to me on this' time I would wait for her to bring the subject up again...if 'get back to me' was kind of vague, you might think of doing a memo or email...keeping it brief and de-personalizing it, but stating/clarifying you appreciate her recognizing how lately the department/caseload has mostly been in 'crisis management mode' and that, being there for over 4 years now, you recognize that, over time, things will return to their 'normal' crisis mode and that you're sure you BOTH look forward to things evening out.
The reason I'm suggesting memo/email is to start the documentation process...only you know if you should do that..that's why the above paragraph is inclusive of the department and her...whether you want to document or have the conversation, only you can judge...if it's a conversation maybe in addition to the above you could say something like:'At first I thought you were joking...but I can assure you there is absolutely no need for a leave (medical or otherwise) of absence...but thanks for asking.' In my view this is an out for her and letting her feel like a 'good' manager.
All of that said, yes, yet again in the world of work, You are expected to rise above and be the better of the two...as far as looking for something else, make sure it's not a knee-jerk reaction...otherwise, you could land in the same kind of spot or worse. You will know the right thing to do when the time comes.
Best of luck...and let me know how it goes.
Jane
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