Posted by shar on August 29, 2000, at 0:27:59
In reply to Re: Pets and depression » stjames, posted by Cam W. on August 28, 2000, at 23:24:24
James,
You probably know about the studies that show that petting a dog lowers blood pressure, that people feel most comfortable talking about a stressful, personal problem when their (not spouse, not best friend) dog is in the room with them. And, in nursing homes dogs have been known to bond with people who have been very solitary and isolated.I am definitely one of those annoying "Love me, love my dogs" people.
My dogs have taught me a lot about trust and love. My first dog, Scruffles, a border collie and smarter than me, took better care of my heart than anyone else ever has. She's in Doggie Heaven now, and I asked her to stay with Suzanne as long as needed, and I can't wait to get to Doggie Heaven myself.
My two current dogs were abused and I got them as adults, so my relationship with them is a bit different than with Scruffles. I got Scruff when she was 6-weeks. Scruffles taught my son how to be a loving and nurturing "parent."
My current dogs, Shadow and Lamar, both had to be brought out of their shells. I have learned a lot about what patient and consistent love can do. It took Lamar a year to wag his tail when I loved on him(mainly petting him, cooing, and a few puppy kisses). That tail wag was a significant moment, and now he will come over and nudge me to get petted. A BIG accomplishment.
Shadow would hardly look at me when I got her. She now barks, and has an attitude. She thinks she's pretty cool...And that is a joy for me to see. She will put up with my petting, and tolerates a few puppy kisses, but she would much rather be playing Lambie Toy, running around, rolling on her back, etc.
So, when I get home it's leaping and barking and two dogs smiling, and Lamar tries to go up the steps to the house but I had to teach him steps and he can't do them under pressure, so I sing-song "Lamar, move, Lamar, Lamaaaar--moooove." etc.
I am definitely alpha, and the dogs are really well behaved. I think it means a lot to me--like evidence I am a good parent. We are all good for each other.
Good question/thread. Thanks!
Shar
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