Posted by toetapper on March 23, 2011, at 22:44:34
In reply to Re: People who've lost faith in therapy » Tabitha, posted by toetapper on March 23, 2011, at 12:53:04
Ive gotten several emails that indicate to me my post has totally bombed, so I officially withdraw it. I only meant to say I think we vest too much in the T relationship, and sometimes lose sight of the purpose of the relationship. And, also, there are a lot of practitioners out there who really should not be practicing.
Several other people have said the same thing so I know Im not crazy -- I believe you have to keep asking yourself what am I doing here? What am I trying to accomplish?
I was trying to accomplish a happy, carefree, normal persona. I thought the right T could help me. When I realized I was wrong I moved on.
I do think the T relationship mirrors other significant relationships in our lives, and I think thats really important. We choose our Ts for both conscious and subconscious reasons, just as we choose spouses, friends, neighbors, and, in some cases, jobs. We go where we feel safe/comfortable. And we choose to stay, or go, based on the same. For me, understanding that has completely changed the way I interact with every single person in my life, from the postman to my children. We want the T relationship to be the one that heals us, and sometimes it does, very effectively, and Im glad for that.
But sometimes the healing comes from understanding ourselves from within.
Ive learned more about myself from babble than any source. Ive lurked for years, allowing myself to watch what triggers me, and questioning why. I cant recall the last time I posted here, yet something in this thread triggered me enough to post. I think its because Ive watched this site circle the drain for two years now, and it makes me sad, this is the place where I learned the most about myself.
Im sorry I offended you all, that was the exact opposite of my intention.
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