Posted by fleeting flutterby on June 6, 2009, at 16:54:21
In reply to Did Your T Ever Get This Comfortable?!!?, posted by sassyfrancesca on June 3, 2009, at 15:48:05
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> Last night we switched chairs (I was in his big rolling chair), he sat on the couch.....took off his shoes, put his legs up and relaxed. I smiled to myself. I doubt he's ever done that with another client.<<--flutterby: have you ever thought of it that he doesn't do that with other clients because he respects them. I wonder....How come you still don't seem to think you deserve respect?
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> He's been 2 weeks in the paranoid mode.....the "I want to keep my license"--and out of the blue! "I don't want to have an affair." It's SO ironic, HE is the one who has been misbehavin' all these years.>>--fluterby: hope you understand my saying this, all in your best interest....... I don't see it as ironic, I see it as him carrying on where your "ex" left off.....
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> If your t got that comfy, how would you feel?<<---flutterby: that he was NOT trustworthy and NOT safe at all and didn't give a damn about anyone but himself.
> After his paranoid lecture last week......he threw me on the couch, and I had 2 black and blue marks...crazy stuff, I know
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> Hugs, Sassy
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> (who is having a hard time...June 7th, I would have been married 40 years; divorced after 31 years of abuse).<<<----flutterby: Please understand Sassy, this comes from a caring heartfelt mind--- it seems to me you are searching for your next abuser and are content in letting this horrible, less than human being be just that. I'm sure he's having much fun with it all-- but at what cost to you? or , maybe it doesn't matter what the cost is to you..... maybe only negative attention is what you feel you deserve or can have....... it's quite apparent that it makes no difference to him. If it wasn't you it would be the next client that expects and anticipates abuse, at least that's how I believe this situation to be......
I hope I've not offended you-- you are so sweet and could be on a journey to kind, caring hearts instead of selfish, abusive ones.
I do so wish you courage, love and inner peace.
flutterby-mandy
poster:fleeting flutterby
thread:899233
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20090515/msgs/899703.html