Posted by antigua3 on May 29, 2009, at 11:57:44
In reply to Re: crappy session today » Dinah, posted by raisinb on May 29, 2009, at 9:35:06
Wow, I'm really impressed that you said those things to her. I feel the same way about my pdoc sometimes--that he just doesn't "get" it and no matter how much I talk, unless he gains more experience with patients such as me (that's pure projection on my part, that he doesn't have the experience; he claims to have it), he will never understand me. It makes me want to push him so hard, and that's not a safe place to be.
My T has the experience, and that makes a huge difference because I really feel like she understands, or she goes miles out of her way to "get" it if I think she doesn't. Her understanding what I bring to the room--the anguish, suffering and pain--is wonderful.
Part of it is not knowing the lives of our therapists. My pdoc may have real-world experiences that mirror mine, but I will never know. He did say once that he really did understand my suffering and he said it in a way that made me think he had been through something tough, although not what I've been through.
It's a huge issue, I think, and you did a great job articulating how you (and me!) often feel.
One last thing. My pdoc has always said that an intense session is usually followed by a lesser one. It's a way for us to re-connect after the intensity, he says. But I often feel like, "Well, let's keep going and not waste our time on chit chat." But he says it's important, and that sometimes the after sessions bring up the feelings for the next round of intensity. I don't know if he's right or not.
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