Posted by Dinah on May 23, 2009, at 10:48:12
In reply to Re: Oliver broke my heart (Spoilers) » Annierose, posted by Dinah on May 23, 2009, at 10:25:47
Actually, the mother's reaction might have been pretty normal as an initial reaction. She felt like she'd given up her dreams to take care of Oliver and a selfish angry man. When Oliver decided he wanted to spend time with his dad, and Paul said she was using Oliver as an excuse not to fulfill her own dreams, it is probably pretty normal to think something like "They're so ungrateful. I give and give, and they resent me for it, and tell me I'm using my son as an excuse. Well, let's see how they like it when I stop giving. I'm going to follow my own dreams for a while, and leave those two ungrateful males to manage on their own."
But more compassionate and sensible women would then acknowledge that they didn't do what they did to get gratitude. And that it would be irresponsible to chuck it all and move to Tahiti.
I don't think I judge her more harshly because she's a woman. I'd judge a man who wanted to leave his kids with a potentially abusive wife so he could escape pretty harshly too.
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