Posted by DAisym on September 24, 2007, at 20:28:35
In reply to Sexual Abuse / Rape, posted by Angel Girl on September 24, 2007, at 19:12:28
I'm sorry for what you've been through.
You are right - talking about the past does not change it. It will likely always hurt or make you angry when you think about it. But therapy can help you find a way to choose to think about it, instead of it intruding on your life so much. You can see how it is still affecting you and you can find ways to cope with your trust issues.
It is true that lots of therapists don't work with the past. But some do. And even if you find one who helps you work with the present, telling your history and connecting it to your behaviors may be helpful.
It isn't easy. Sometimes you feel worse before you feel better. So if you do it, tell yourself you are committing to it, so that when it gets bad you don't run away from it. I've found it has taken awhile but it has definately been helpful.
Good luck.
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