Posted by Quintal on August 30, 2007, at 11:17:55
In reply to Re: Sat closer to my therapist today » Quintal, posted by RealMe on August 29, 2007, at 20:49:29
I think I may have placed her comments/actions out of context. She wasn't sexually provocative at all, and definitely not aggressive. She's a very small, frail and kind and gentle woman. I have a photo of the effigy-burning ritual somewhere. If I can find it I think you'll see what I mean.
The breast-gesturing thing was part of a longer conversation. At one point she said: "because I guess [making slashing gestures against her arm] can be a bit like [sticking her fingers down her throat, as one would to make one's self vomit]. We were discussing the relationship between self-harm and self-control or something like that. With the opening cardigan gesture I think she meant that it's hard to peel away your defenses and show yourself as you really are, and risk rejection. There were no sexual overtones at the time. The other nakedness thing might have been me testing boundaries or something like that, and she was just showing that she was completely open, and she was comfortable to do a session naked, if that's what I needed. We weren't seriously contemplating doing such a thing.
I was uncomfortable with the hugging because I'm uncomfortable with intimacy in general. I don't think she meant any sexual by it, it was just something that she did with her supervisor and wondered if I would like to do it with her. She never suggested it again after that time.
Here is the photo:
http://i125.photobucket.com/albums/p46/Serepham/QuintCounsellor.jpgQ
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