Posted by Jost on September 8, 2006, at 6:49:22
In reply to Follow up question, posted by Daisym on September 7, 2006, at 23:59:16
The hope is really important, I think. This may not apply to others, but in my experience, hope is one of those difficult emotions, because it's connected so strongly to disappointment. Therefore it becomes difficult to have, or keep, it-- but if you reject hope, and feel much safer with hopelessness, it prevents a lot of things from happening (or having the chance to happen).
Placing hope in a T makes a lot of sense-- they can't change you, per se, but you and they could have experiences that are different from the ones that are associated with and have created or sustain one's self-destructiveness, or defeatedness, or stymie one's desires or will.
Not all Ts deserve that trust, but, what I meant (I think) was that, if you do have different experiences, or rework old experiences, it seems to make a difference over time. I think of that as happening with someone human, but special (at least to me)-- so for me it's associated with more of an attachment. But if "human" connotes failed, defective--or other things that one wants to avoid or deny-- then it could be a source of distrust, and disappointment.
Of course, ADs can also make a difference-- I really shouldn't leave that out, at least for me.
Jost
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