Posted by muffled on September 7, 2006, at 0:12:16
In reply to Re: T attachment, posted by llrrrpp on September 6, 2006, at 21:58:28
> Mufflie,
> it's okay to be attached. It's scary, but it's rewarding.***Its mindbendingly terrifying. It goes against all I ever been for as long as I can remember. But I tired of being alone and w/o nurture.
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> Attached is like infants with their mommies. It's a beautiful thing.**CAN be, but isn't always. But when it is, yes, its beautiful.
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> Attached is like me and my cat. It's sweet, and I need her, and she needs me. She's not afraid to flop down on the ground right in front of me and put her "happy feet" in the air. I could step on her, but I don't. I rub her tummy.***Yeah, that other loaded word....Trust.
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> the only way to get some love is to show some attachment.***Can you explain further on this one?
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> Don't worry. Attachment is not the same as dependence. I'm dependent on my mailman, but I don't give a crap about whether he loves me or not. I don't even know if it's a man or a woman or a person.***Good point, excellent point, fantastic point.
Attach DOES NOT equal dependance. I like that one.
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> Attachment is the happy, healthy, natural variant of dependency. Attachment is like a loop, where each part completes the other. Dependency is like hanging from something. It can't go on forever, and it doesn't feel right.***I like the loop thing. I like visual descriptions. I seem to work best with visual stuff.
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> It's okay. don't be scared muffled. This is good. Don't fight it to hard.**Part of me is so freaking terrified.
Part of me wants it so bad.
Part of me is on high alert protective status.
I TRYING not to fight it. I trying to explain to T.
I do it with faxes. But she better w/face to face.
I bout had it w/me.
Goto do this.
Thanks LL,
Take care,
Muffy
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