Posted by Racer on July 20, 2006, at 17:32:39
In reply to Re: Struggling (big trigger), posted by Daisym on July 19, 2006, at 23:54:19
OK, you know how I use abcesses as an analogy for whatever ails us psychologically? Well, this fits into it, Daisy.
Just in case anyone hasn't already read this one...
Our psychological wounds are like abcesses. The surface can even be healed over, so that you're not aware of the wound, but under that surface, the infection is still there -- and growing. While that intact skin is covering it, and it has no where to go, it's eating away your healthy flesh and bone. That's why we go to therapy -- to debride that abcess.
And it hurts. It hurts much more than just leaving it as it was -- right now. If we did leave it, though, it would just get worse, and we'd end up in more pain. But when we treat it, debride the psychological abcess, everything can heal for real -- it's all healthy flesh that comes back. That's what we're working for, right?
Now, Daisy -- if I came to you and said, "You know, my beloved cat had an abcess, and so I had him put down, because treating it would hurt so much," what would you say to me? What would you think of me?
So, right now, while I acknowledge that you're in a huge amount of pain, you're still looking at euthanizing yourself over an abcess. Something treatable. Something that you *will* get over -- if you allow yourself.
Mind you, if you came to me with your cat, and said, "I feel so bad, because he doesn't understand that the pain he's feeling now will pass, and there's no way to tell him -- but I love him so much, I'm going to put him through this pain in order for him to have the rest of his life," I'd say, "yes, that's so hard, I understand."
So, that's what I say to you now: I understand how hard this is for you right now.
Daisy? You really and truly *can* do this. I'll even put that in writing. If it turns out that I'm wrong, you can sue me for breach of contract. Won't you stick around for that?
All my best to you.
poster:Racer
thread:668394
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