Posted by ElaineM on July 20, 2006, at 9:48:07
In reply to disappointed, posted by lightening on July 20, 2006, at 1:15:13
I've read to a T/doc, what I thought about them, twice. Once, I didn't really get a response. The last time, I got a small, honest reaction - wonderful.
I know that T's have alot of reasons for being/seeming withholding. Perhaps she didn't want to cry, cause she's supposed to be strong. Perhaps she felt bad that her leaving is going to effect you so. Maybe she was embarrassed, only cause she never picked up on your true feelings for her before - like, with her T antenae. Maybe she was so moved that she didn't now how to properly respond. There's so many reasons. But it's no wonder you feel disappointed. You revealed a piece of yourself and was hoping to have it acknowledged.
Would you ever come out and ask her what it's like for her when clients tell her how much they care for her -- how it effects her. That might be a good segue into talking about what you felt after you read her your words.
That being said, I myself am a bit of a chicken when it comes to stuff like that. I always preface the things I say to T/docs. Like..."I know this may be strange for you, to be so much more important in my life, than I am in yours, but...." or, "I hope this doesn't make you feel awkward..." I guess I use it as a way to prepare them for the intense stuff a paragraph or so down ;-)
Do you think she might return to it next session, all on her own? Maybe she needed to process it more before saying anything.
I think you were brave to tell her.
take care, Elaine
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