Posted by Dinah on July 19, 2006, at 11:19:03
In reply to Re: Still need help framing » Dinah, posted by curtm on July 19, 2006, at 10:36:01
But my point is that you aren't thinking about just this instant, right? You're thinking of all the times that came before, and what it has cost you? And you're thinking of all the times in the future? Maybe reframing in this case means narrowing the focus to just this time, and dealing with just this time.
Kids forget. They don't have common sense, the way adults define it. They don't have the same priorities and they don't have the same capacity for sustained attention or for planning. You can model common sense, and you can make sure they do what they should (with reminders, explicit instructions, and calm explanations of why you're asking), but part of that is developmental and won't come until their brains are ready.
So redefining your expectations may be another reframing.
How many kids to you have? I can see where more than one or two could seem like a madhouse. :)
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