Posted by fallsfall on July 13, 2006, at 12:31:30
In reply to framing techniques, posted by curtm on July 13, 2006, at 9:00:45
Dinah is right. Look at things from a different perspective. It takes practice, but (if I can say so myself) I've gotten pretty good at it.
Examples:
Something bad happens = Now I have a chance to figure out how to handle it when something bad happens
My daughter is going to college and I'll miss her so much = I'm so proud of my daughter because she is so ready to go to college and is growing up so nicely
It is hot and humid and I hate hot and humid = what a great day to clean out the (cool) basement
What do you need reframed?
Practice, Practice, Practice
(P.S. it is easier to practice on other people first - figure out how to find a positive side to a friend's complaint. Once you get the technique it will be easier to do for yourself.)
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