Posted by Glydin on July 12, 2006, at 17:02:21
In reply to Re: Support vs. Enabling - a dicey concept for me » Glydin, posted by curmudgeon on July 12, 2006, at 14:01:16
It is a question for me. I don’t think about help versus hurt in a situation until I see a protracted situation with the same postings and the same responses and the same postings and the same responses. I have noted most folks do bow out of a situation as a normal progression due to frustration. What I wonder is about the bigger picture and maybe the agenda. If attention to the behavior is a benefit then ANY attention - good, bad, neutral, trying to help or blasting away - may serve the purpose. If well intentioned suggestions don’t have and impact, could well intentioned ignoring have an impact?
I have tried to understand and have a somewhat open mind, but some behaviors I absolutely can’t grasp as being okay according to my sensibilities - which really only matters to me. But, after trashing it about over and over, what are we *really* doing by continuing to respond? I dunno, I really don’t.
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