Posted by Jost on May 22, 2006, at 21:10:09
In reply to Re: I called him today and left a message--HF? » Jost, posted by happyflower on May 22, 2006, at 8:02:45
> Hi Jost,
> Welcome to Babble if you are new! My relationship with my T has been on the boards for over the past year if you want to look in the archives.
> I don't think my T is trying to seduce me, but there is a mutual attraction between us that I think has effects on our relationship. We have done very good work together and I have improved a lot. I also see him in public too at the gym. So our relationship is unique in that way.
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> It is truly a long story, believe me! LOL I am now still struggeling with that we can't have a personal relationship outside of therapy and it hurts. And I think recently my T has tightened his boundries during therapy and I am hurt by that too. It just seems like he doesn't care about me anymore, like I am just a number.
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> Thanks for your support Jost. Talk soon!
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> HappyflowerHi, Happyflower. I am pretty new here. I'll try to catch up on your history. Stay strong--this sounds tough.
I'm sure actually your T doesn't think of you as a number, but might be self-protective at this stage. What worries me is if he (and you) are caught in a possibly-destructive vacillation between being drawn together, then his closing the door (metaphorically).
That's not good, for either of you--but esp. for you (or at least you're my concern).
Therapists are human, but they have more responsibilities to their patients (IMHO) than people do in most adult relationships. It's complex--but you have a right to be protected in certain ways-- It's always a clinical judgment. I hope he's acted responsibly.
Jost
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