Posted by LadyBug on May 22, 2006, at 19:22:59
In reply to Re: HAPPYFLOWER~~~ » LadyBug, posted by happyflower on May 22, 2006, at 17:36:42
Happyflower,
I've been in a simular situation to where I'd tell my T I quit and wasn't coming back. I'd ALWAYS end up calling her back within a week. I wanted her to call me and ask me to come back, but when I did return, she told me she would have waited about 2 weeks before she called me if she didn't hear from me first. Putting the ball in my court, I quit, did I want to keep it that way was up to me. So he might be playing this hard nose game too. Letting it be your choice and him not interfering. We want them to read our minds. And they seem to get us hooked on them and then it is us who suffer, not them. Sometimes I felt like such a number. I would ask myself this if I were you:
1. Can I go the rest of my life and not talk to him and wonder what happened and not be able to work it through with him?
2. If I do quit and never see him, can I live with that? How will it affect me in the other area's of my life?
3. Can I go to a different T and make more progress, and have to pay someone else to work through what happened to you and your current T?
4. I wouldn't be willing to tell him for 90 bucks how you feel either. Leave him a message and tell him how it makes you feel to have him ignore you!
I don't know, follow your gut? I'm so stuck in therapy, stuck on my therapist. She's so awesome, my safe place to land.
One thing I have learned, and it's only taken me 9 years, is that it's not therapy nor my therapist that causes me pain like I wanted to believe. (It had to be her, or therapy, everytime I left her office I felt more pain than I could handle.) It's my freakin marriage and my husband doing it all. He can't seem to believe that?!?!?!
My husband and my youngest daughter have been in Washington DC for my step son's graduation from Medical School. It's been such a relief to have him gone for 5 days. He will be back tomorrow. The stress level will return as soon as I see his face. I miss my daughter, but not him. I'm working towards leaving, I'm just financially stuck at the moment. Thanks for asking though.
Hugs and DO keep in touch. Let me know what your plans are from here. I know how hard and how painful it is. Dam**t All!!!!!!!
LadyBug
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