Posted by LittleGirlLost on May 4, 2006, at 12:30:55
In reply to Re: T and Mother's Day, posted by LadyBug on May 4, 2006, at 11:22:47
> I've always had a special place in my heart for my T on Mother's Day. The first year, I wanted to give her a hug not knowing it was a boundary breaker. She let me becasue it was Mother's Day. But the following week we talked about it. I've given her a few Mother's Day cards or at least wished her a Happy Mother's day. I've always thought she was my therapist "Mother" so I always feel like I should wish her a Happy Day. We will be talking about it this week I suppose.
> I think a card is fine as long as you convey what your reasons are giving it to her. I've learned not to try to hide behind some feelings by giving her a card and that I should tell her what I'm feeling too.
> Gor for it, I would.
> LadyBugThanks for sharing your experience with this, LadyBug. Wow that's cool that she let you give her a hug! I'd be too afraid, so I found myself smiling as I read your post.
I understand that she is my therapist and I wouldn't get a real "motherly" kind of card, but I also feel that (like you said) she is a "therapist mother". I mean, emotionally she feels like a mother, and I think that what helps me is not only the clinical therapy stuff, but the feeling nurtured, as a child would by a mother. I feel like that's bad though. I have a hard time admitting any of this to her. In the back of my mind, I always feel like if my own mother rejected me, I couldn't possibly expect anyone else to care for me (or like me) the way a mother would.As an aside.... I was sick recently and when I called her during the week and told her that I wished I was with her, especially now, she said "of course you would. anyone would want to feel cared for." I just have a hard time admitting these things though. I feel like I am crossing boundries for even feeling this way.
Ok, I think I went off on a tangent somewhere. :)
lgl
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