Posted by zazenduck on May 3, 2006, at 10:01:31
In reply to That's a bit black and white, isn't it? » zazenduck, posted by Racer on May 2, 2006, at 12:44:50
> > Nor will all individuals find and maintain the loving, nurturing, and supportive interpersonal relationships they so frequently desire,. At least, they may not find these qualities in one relationship;even if they do establish such a relationship, it may not be permanent. The relationship with the therapist may be the best one an individual ever finds-not necessarily because of dificiencies on her part, but because the ability of our society to provide community and companionship is limited, even for many of its best members.......
> > Marsha Linehan
> >
> > It may be the best you ever find but it's over ! Happy termination!
> >
> > So what do you do next? Is it better to have a taste of what you may never find again than never to have had it all?
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> I don't think that's saying anything quite so bleak as all that. I think one of the most important points there is the "may not find these qualities in one relationship" part, not the "may not be permanent" part.It just seems like an odd statement on Marsha's part that the therapy relationship would be the best. Isn't it meant to be a stepping stone to something else not an end in in self? At least if it's successful. And a real life relationship that replicated therapy wouldn't be healthy at all. And blaming it on society? Puhlease. I think if therapy is the best relationship you ever have then therapy has failed.
I agree with the things you said too. Thanks for replying. My middle name is Eeyore but I always appreciate anyone who's willing to try and talk me out of my bleak outlook.
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