Posted by Daisym on May 1, 2006, at 2:34:25
In reply to A conference report..., posted by Pfinstegg on April 30, 2006, at 12:35:54
Sounds like a great conference! I'd love to see the slides.
As you know, I've taken on a Master's degree fellowship program studying Infant mental health concepts and the overriding theme in everything we've studied is attachment, secure base, attachment, attunement, attachment - rupture-repair...and more attachment. Our list of professors over the next year is pretty impressive and includes both Daniel Stern and Dan Siegel. I'll get to spend three full days with each picking their brains about -- well, brains! :)
Bringing my own personal experiences to this work has been interesting and very painful at times. But because I've already read so much trying to understand my own feelings for my therapist, I'm way ahead of the class in my belief in the healing aspects of a relationship.
I'm sure you and your therapist will get back in sync again, even as you move toward termination. There are times that I know that I need my therapist less, and I find that I miss him at these times, even as I know that this is what all this work was for. Being healthier and more secure comes at a certain price. I have to guard against not wanting to get better because I'm afraid of losing this relationship. In a recent conversation about exactly this, my therapist asked me to consider the idea that as I heal, I could use therapy for growth and support instead of "just" for recovery and solace. It is a scary idea because if I don't desperately need him so much, won't he give my spot to someone else? I told him that there must be at least 10 of me waiting to take my place on his couch.
He said there was only one "daisy" and no one could take my place. *sigh* It was exactly the right thing to say.
Thanks for sharing. Nice to see you posting.
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