Posted by Racer on April 28, 2006, at 1:14:43
In reply to Counselors Need To Use Delicate Wording, posted by DisposableDoll on April 27, 2006, at 23:33:25
What do I think? I think lots of things, but from what I read of your post -- I'm old, it's hard for me to read things without paragraphs ;-) -- I think you sound very upset, and that it is NEVER OK for a T to say that a client is "whoring around" that way.
And I don't think it's about trying to get you to see another perspective.
Personally, I think that's a guy with a problem of his own that he's bringing into his time with you. A lot of men are frightened at women's sexuality, which might be part of it; a lot of people still believe that sex is only OK within a marriage, which could have something to do with it; and a lot of other people are just a bit prudish. My guess is that he's somewhere in that range.
Another possibility, though, would be if you had a dx of Borderline Personality Disorder, in which case he may have been trying to shake you into insight. If so, I still think it was wrong. There are better ways to get some of those ideas across.
And, of course, it's always possible that he's just not very good at his job, you know?
(And I won't comment on your mother's treatment of you. Maybe I'm just weird, but I do believe in fighting fair. Period. Especially with people we love.)
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