Posted by Dinah on April 24, 2006, at 18:41:55
In reply to Re: An apology for my post yesterday » Dinah, posted by orchid on April 24, 2006, at 15:37:11
I know this is easier to say from my cultural perspective, and to even say it seems like I'm saying our way is right, and I don't want to do that because there's something to be said for more traditional arrangements.
But please don't beat yourself up for something you did in what was really a different place and time. You've now changed to believe in the type of marriage you believe in now. But maybe you wouldn't be embracing it as willingly if you didn't have other experiences.
You didn't betray him by feeling something for someone else. Feelings just are.
And it's not really worthwhile to regret what we can't change. Your experiences, all of them, make you who you are now.
I know it's hard to be as compassionate towards ourselves as we are towards others. (It gets easier as I get older and my memory fails.)
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