Posted by Tamar on December 16, 2005, at 18:30:16
In reply to Thanks everyone, posted by Dinah on December 16, 2005, at 13:57:57
> I don't like the way I feel on Risperdal, all rational and not very empathetic. And anorgasmic and with cognitive difficulty.
You knew I’d pick up on this, right?
You’re doing sex therapy and taking medication that makes you anorgasmic?
You’re trying to live a very difficult life and get through it without basic sexual relief?
You’re waking up every morning knowing today’s not gonna be the day?
Good grief, Dinah, how can you get through it? At least with wine you can still get there (not too much, mind you…)
Ditch the damn Risperdal and get yourself a decent bottle of Chardonnay or Cabernet Sauvignon. And light a few candles.> But I don't think I can stop it. A couple of days off of it and I was a bawling wreck this morning. Apparently it's a strong antidepressant for me. Go figure.
There are other antidepressants. Women need orgasms.
> I don't want to give up on my therapist. I want to have a commitment to him even when he's not at his best. But it's somehow much worse to be alone with him than it is to be alone by myself. I just don't know if I can stand it.
Yeah, I know. It takes time. This Katrina thing is still in its raw phase.
> I told him I didn't need him to be at his best. I didn't need him to say brilliant things. I didn't need him to be in a good mood. I just needed his *presence*. To have him be really there, not just going through the motions. I could take a flawed or hurting therapist/mom, but not an absent one. I asked if that was a bad thing, or the wrong thing to want from therapy. He said it wasn't. That there were theories that said that's how therapy worked. I don't remember reading any, but I'll take his word for it.Yeah, apparently it’s all in the relationship. And no matter how bad the relationship can be at times, it’s still better than no relationship.
> Hopefully his plan will work. It sounds not dissimilar to what I do *before* therapy. And it might even have nice symbolic overtones. Sort of consecrating the space. He wants to take a few moments of silence at the beginning of the session to consider what in each of us might stand in the way of genuine connection.
I think focusing on the connection at the beginning of the session is a really good idea. And putting aside anything that stands in the way of that. It sounds rather spiritual, in a good way. I hope it works out well for you.
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