Posted by one woman cine on December 5, 2005, at 6:50:36
In reply to Re: Privacy boundaries » one woman cine, posted by Tamar on December 4, 2005, at 19:52:22
I guess I was advocating for the mutual respect the patient has for the therapist, not the SO. The SO is not in issue in therapy, until it pertains to triangulation.
I think it's fine to work through attachment, but not when it involves more than you & your therapist.
I'm not uncomfortable with fantasies, per se. But I was refining this idea last night. The prior threads I was referring to including "joking" about the therapist. But I realized what made me uncomfortable was the manner in which some of the "joking" occurred. & a joke to me, as I understand, is joke if the parties involved thinks its a joke - & thinks it's funny. But I don't think you can really joke about someone who may not share your humor - ie joking about your therapist, when he/she may not know. I'm wondering if the therapist would think it was funny if they knew about the comments being made about them. I don't think, if the shoe were on the other foot - anyone, me included, would like my therapist making jokes about me at all, in any context. I think then; it's no longer a joke, it's a joke one makes at someones elses expense.
I think the golden rule applies even in therapy, treat people the way you want to be treated.
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