Posted by allisonross on October 30, 2005, at 10:27:27
In reply to I Can't Believe It, posted by Susan47 on October 29, 2005, at 16:42:44
> Dear Susan, sweetie: I believe "the unexamined life is not worth living," and believe I know myself as well as one can. One one hand, I have my fairy-child (that's the nickname some have given me, cause I like to live in the moment, am a free-spirit, etc. On the other hand, I am able to look at reality---even when it bites.
And...it BITES right now.
Have been in love with my therapist for 2 years, and what he has been doing is called "seductive behavior"...I have always loved it, but now I know it is not good for me, but am not ready to confront him.
I've confronted him on other issues (not afraid to speak my mind).
I have to because obviously it's true. All the facts just stare me in the face and won't let go.
Good for you!
> My last therapist was using me to feed his ego.
Yup, I get that.
I look at the way he behaves when he's around women, and he does it constantly with them.
I am curious, how is it that you see him around other women, when therapy is supposed to be private, etc.?
I believe he probably is the same way with his male patients as well. I think he works mostly at getting that nice little warm feeling when he thinks he's been helpful.
Yes, and then he can feel good about himself.
I think he ignores and gets angry and disappointed when he can't see the forest for the trees. I believe he's self-delusional.
I am sure you are right.
I believe he operates mostly out of his ego. I wish he were different.
I know. Isn't that a shame!
> But I don't think he is. And evidence ALL the evidence points to the fact that I'm right.
Always trust your "gut"
> I probably wouldn't have liked him in person.
> I probably would have thought him shallow and self-serving.
> And protective of himself to the point of hurting others.
> My blinders might finally be coming off.
> I may finally be seeing things the way they really are.Again, good for you!
> So, congratulate me.
Congratulations!!
> I'm a stronger person than I ever was, but I had to walk through hell to get here.
Sometimes the only way we get strong, is to experience the pain, walk through it, and realize what happened, see the reality, and only then can we heal.
And I mean, how stable am I really?
> I don't know.You sound very stable to me.
> But I do know when someone is hurting me, and I hope I'm getting strong enough to learn that someone else's ugliness does not have to reflect upon me.
No.....knowing the difference between their "stuff" and OURs is the key.
Congratulations, Congratulations, Congratulations!
This called, "self-actualization" and you are doing it!Hugs n Love, Ally
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