Posted by Tamar on October 25, 2005, at 17:20:19
In reply to Boundaries Bending (Love w/T)or: Abusing Myself, posted by allisonross on October 25, 2005, at 15:33:15
Hello Allison,
I’ve read a few of your posts, so I’m familiar with your story, but I don’t think we’ve communicated directly before. It’s nice to meet you.
If I understood correctly, you were asking for feedback about your feeling that you should leave your therapist because you say what he is doing is sex exploitation.
I will admit I’m not certain what you mean by sex exploitation. You say there’s no sexual contact between you and no kissing. So I’m not entirely sure what’s exploitative. Did you mean the sense you have that he’s attracted to you but not telling you?
If that’s the case, I guess I’d say that I don’t think attraction in itself is exploitative. If he were suggesting that he’s interested in having a relationship with you outside therapy, then I think that would be a cause for concern. And if you feel he's bending boundaries, then I think the best course of action is to talk to him about it, but I know it's not easy to do.
If there are specific things that worry you that you don’t want to post on a public forum, feel free to Babblemail me. In case you haven’t done it before, you can click on the blue underlined name Tamar at the top of this post and your computer will give you a new form that you can type in. It’s email based so anything you say will be private and won’t appear here on the message board.
Of course, you can always reply here if you prefer.
Best wishes
Tamar
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