Posted by sunny10 on February 16, 2005, at 13:35:18
In reply to Re: benefits of crying ? » sunny10, posted by mair on February 16, 2005, at 13:08:19
no, it IS a huge explanation....
my mom was a single mom and I was child number three. I imagine she probably wasn't very sweet to me if she had to miss work when any of us was sick... I probably learned that response from watching her reaction whenever my brother or sister was sick and "learned it" just like you did about the crying. It's very logical, now that you gave me a perfectly good example!
I am shocked that your T didn't want you to grieve your dad's death. Grieving is supposed to be about working through loss and, to me, there is no more final proof that things would never be "made better" than one of the parties dying. Also, I was told that I had a right to grieve for what I had hoped the relationship would be, rather than only "face up to not having lost much"! At the very least it is the death of the dream father-daughter relationship, isn't it?
(obviously you can tell that my former T did quite a lot of "grieving work" with me.... sorry if I sort of went off.
And if I've been too.. I don't know; too ME?, I'm sorry...),
Thank you for sharing yourself with me, I truly appreciate it.
sunny10
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