Posted by 10derHeart on February 11, 2005, at 15:18:17
In reply to Caring, posted by fallsfall on February 11, 2005, at 10:53:28
I used to email my T. when I felt this way. One time in particular I recall, I could tell he was deeply touched, because he was only able to respond by saying thanks, and that there was more, but that some things can't be expressed by "mere words." For him, that was something huge, because although a kind and gentle soul, he guarded his feelings about my gratitude toward him (or anything else) quite closely.
When I got to know him better much later, he told me several times most T's don't know till years later if therapy really helped, they wish for more feedback just like you're thinking of now, and that with some clients they don't get any kind of thanks at all. He meant it in the sense they wonder a lot if their way of working, and how sessions play out, really feels good and healing to some clients, but it just would cross boundaries to come out and ask. So they're left wondering. And frankly, being human after all, *I* knew he also meant that anyone who works so hard and cares so much just wants some simple gratitude from time to time.
Falls, he will love it, and I'll bet the way you sound, so will you. I was a bit too shy to call, so email it was. You sound great and I'm so happy you had such a session. Loved reading all your posts! Yeah for Falls!! - 10derHeart
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