Posted by Aphrodite on January 6, 2005, at 16:27:26
In reply to Re: I think...., posted by Dinah on January 6, 2005, at 4:05:59
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> Sometimes I just get frustrated with something like that dream. He just glossed over everything except that I had seen him at the post office and noticed he was a man. If it was just that once, but it's not. I suppose I could say that he forces me to come to my own conclusions, but...Let me finish that for you: "but . . . probably not." You really have an objective take on your T's strengths and weaknesses.
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> He won't allow me to have more than one therapist. He's ok with an adjunct short term therapist to do something he doesn't do, with a limited scope and purpose. I haven't liked any of the adjunct therapists, though, and have never gotten very far with them.
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> He's firm on that. Says he doesn't work that way.Just from the reading here and another time you mentioned it, he sounds a little defensive. Am I reading that wrong? But I do understand that most Ts hold to this as well. My T was a little miffed when I went for a second opinion. I can see how it might pique their egos! However, getting another point of view was the best thing for my therapy, and even he admits that now.
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> He'd also be angry with this thread. He thinks he's competent to treat me. He reminds me of the years he spent working with a psychiatrist who specialized in dissociative disorders.The pdoc specialized, not him. If I am recalling right, he also seemed a little burned out by it? But you are more than a patient on the dissociative spectrum. You have an intellect and depth that is quite rare, you know. Does he acknowledge that? I bet he knows, if he hasn't said so outright.
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>Because he's not perfect (not by a long shot) but he's my mommy.
This counts for a lot and makes up for many of the shortcomings. I don't think it hurts to wonder. At least when you stay with him, you know it's because you've weighed the pros and cons. Sometimes, though, we want more than Mom. The unfortunate thing is that you are in a position not to gain valuable insight from other professionals because of his rule and your location. With real moms, you get to have all the other relationships you want and still have mom to come home to, so to speak.
Have you ever thought about what some cons might be to an in-depth, intellectual T? Maybe one could be constant head-spinning, a constant struggle with intensity. Mabye less emoting and bonding?
I think in any comfortable relationship we start to wonder and long for more or wonder how other people might be different. Maybe this is the therapeutic equivalent to the marital seven year itch?
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