Posted by daisym on January 6, 2005, at 0:02:09
In reply to Re: Therapy Intruding on Life » mair, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2005, at 19:38:17
I feel this way in the largest sense. It confuses me, who is so practical and level headed. I've described therapy often as the place that has opened and exposed wounds, and then I have to go back in the real world without being healed or even covered up. I worry that I want to hide from my "real" life by focusing on therapy. I want/need my therapist's support and it terrifies me. I know that most of it is old, prior experience tells me that trusting someone this much is very dangerous. But some of it is the universal message that I'm not supposed to get sucked in -- I'm not supposed to allow these intense feelings for my therapist, it is so...I don't know...weak is the word that comes to mind.
However, given all that, I do think it is a necessary part of the process. How can you reveal such intense feelings and problems to someone and not feel close to them? If therapy embodies the hope of feeling better, how can you not think about it, a lot? I think it is unrealistic to expect otherwise of yourself.
The secret is to find balance. I can't help you there. But I bet your therapist can. Keep talking about it. Keep it out in the open. And post freely about it here. It helps me a lot to write about it.
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