Posted by daisym on January 5, 2005, at 16:15:05
In reply to Re: Absolutely disconnected » Aphrodite, posted by fallsfall on January 5, 2005, at 12:52:34
Because, appearing normal, keeping those emotional displays at bay was expected from "good girls." At least in my case I was told over and over again, "tears don't solve anything! Don't whine or complain. Take action to change or fix it." To do otherwise meant you were wallowing. And wallowing was NOT, NOT allowed. EVER.
And honestly, because I have played this role so long, when I'm falling apart, most of my friends can't handle it if I even hint at something not being up to my usual standards. They say things like, "you need to relax and take a bath. Oh, and when you feel better, could you..."
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