Posted by mair on January 2, 2005, at 9:08:33
In reply to Re: dream, posted by daisym on January 2, 2005, at 2:41:56
Thanks everyone; this is very helpful.
I am a person who tends to feel guilty alot, mostly about errors of omission, not errors of commission so much. I'm perpetually behind at work; I spend alot of time thinking about the things I think I should do and that I'm not doing; I never feel that I'm meeting the needs of my family and there is a huge part of me that worries about disappointing people - of course not enough to do whatever it takes not to disappoint them. (-;
Daisy, control is an issue as well. I don't think I'm particularly controlling (although I'm sure my children would say I try to be) but I sure would like to have more control over how I conduct my life. And I thought about the Babble part as well. I'm not a consistent regular here for several reasons only some of which occasionally have to do with time or a lack of need. It's very difficult for me to write about myself or my needs or offer support to anyone else without judging myself alot for what I'm writing - how it will sound to others; whether anyone will care etc. All of those inhibitions make it hard for me to jump right in when I really do need to be less isolated, and the longer I stay away, the less I feel that I can ever tap back into the support of the group dynamics.
Since I'm feeling pretty needy at the moment, maybe I am worried about losing Babble - it probably didn't help that I actually managed to acquire my first block a couple of months ago, although it seems like it should be ancient history now.
Thanks again
Mair
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