Posted by fallsfall on December 31, 2004, at 10:23:03
In reply to Pining and grieving, posted by crushedout on December 31, 2004, at 9:53:28
Sigh. I wish I could say "No, you don't have to go through this! All you have to do is ..." But I don't know what the "..." could be.
My grief and anger came in waves, and the waves got higher and higher for a while. But eventually they did start to dissipate. But I did have to ride out the high waves and it wasn't fun.
I guess that it helped that I was seeing my new therapist 2X week at that point. You see your new one again on the 3rd??
I think that it may have also helped that I had been through a "dependency withdrawal" before. When I started with my first therapist I was dependent on a friend. With my first therapist's help I was able to reduce that dependency (mostly by transferring it to my therapist...). So at least I knew that at least once before in my life I had been very dependent on someone and lived through the separation phase. So I knew that it was *possible* to survive.
I'll keep you company... I wish there was more that I could do...
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