Posted by Annierose on December 30, 2004, at 19:06:05
In reply to Re: YES! » annierose, posted by crushedout on December 30, 2004, at 8:36:30
Crushed - No, I never posted about this before.
And it's hard to make it short and to the point. Warning, I'm on vacation, skiing w/family (they're on the slopes) and I have a terrible internet connection.
Anyway, I was seeing her for 4+ years (i forget) and I was getting frustrated with her silences, always reflecting, never sharing, but I did like her and connect, we had some great moments and I learned a ton about myself, but I was always frustrated. I guess I wanted her to be more human, more herself. She was, at the time, very rigid (heck, she was fresh out of school, and went to a psychodynamic program).
And she kept encouraging me (gently, she felt) to try and lie down. I guess you can say I'm fairly highly strung. Always have my radar on. So on this day, she says to me, "Annie, I know you are a very perceptive person. And I think you know something about me and are not sharing it." I'm thinking to myself, what in the world is she talking about! I pause, think and say, "are you pregnant?". Yes, she was and "see, you did know." I didn't know, I guessed, (and those were not her exact words, way more psychologically spoken. I sat silently and said something like, "this is crazy, I quit" and we never spoke again. Well actually I think she called me when I missed my next appointment, but the conversation was very brief, "Please come in so we can talk about this." "No, I quit." Obviously, I didn't quit over this one interaction.I would be curious to get Garden Girls feedback as well. Because now that I am back with her, I have brought up why I quit 3 times. "Do you think it's important that we talk about it?" kind of topics and she skirts over it EVERY time. She did say on our first meeting in 2004, that she probably felt huge and projected things onto me, and she is more experienced now to handled these situations, but she doesn't want to delve deeper than that. It's so surprising to me. She was always the one never taking anything at face value, and now, it's the pink elephant sitting in the room. Any thoughts?
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