Posted by shortelise on November 9, 2004, at 14:49:13
In reply to told her I need her but felt bad afterwards, posted by Froso on November 7, 2004, at 11:08:41
Yes, it's normal, yes, it will become less intense.
And what is the most normal is to feel like an idiot about the things we say to our therapists. I have no idea why, but we all seem to at some point smack ourselves around relentlessly for some completely normal thing we've said that we twist around into something absurd.
Of course you need your T. There you are iwht someone who is listening, who is trying to understand, who hopefully is taking your side. What's not to need? SOme of us need to see what it feels like not to be alone on this earth, alone in our feelings, alone in our experiences. That's why we seek out someone to help us, someone to stand with us and help us.
We're supposed to internalize what we learn from them, a sort of new gear we can go into that we didn;t have before - we start to shift into the old ones and then, lo!, we've got this new, more comfortable place to go. Then, slowly, we should be able to move forward on our own. Right? But it's a process that can take time, and should only be done when a person is ready.
This is my opnion, obviously. I'm just me, an analysand like you, and no "expert". But I hope this is helpful.
ShortE
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