Posted by daisym on November 4, 2004, at 13:42:39
In reply to How do you handle your vacations from T?, posted by Speaker on November 4, 2004, at 8:37:46
I think the question is "Do you need him to stay stable, beyond the continuity part?" If yes, I'd bring it up. If no, I'd take the break. You might find that being away, you are in a different space and you are able to quiet the underlying psychological issues that you are currently working on.
You can always call in if you find you need him and leave times for him to call back.
I think your post had two distinct parts. Maybe this is a different thread, but the idea that what you are reading or have read, can influence how your therapy goes, because it increases your knowledge and therefore expectations, is interesting. (long sentence!) For me, I was trying to figure out how to use therapy, to do it right (get an A) so I wasn't reading so much to see if HE was doing it right. But I can see how knowing what the book says, and seeing it applied, would make if feel less personal. The one thing I consistently bat away is reality checking. Every once in awhile he'll try that with me...do the list of "what would happen, did it happen, how many times has it happened" and I've actually stopped him and said I know what you are trying to do. It isn't logical but still...blah, blah, blah.
I think this is sort of the same as Aphrodite saying she is looking for the studies that say exactly why you should talk in detail about traumatic events and what are the pros and cons. I go through periods of researching, looking for the one right answer and I'm sure it is in a book somewhere. My therapist doesn't mind, as long as I don't visit those "cr** web sites designed to scare people out of therapy" as he puts it. He even will discuss theory and debate approaches, which is nice.
Maybe we here at babble should write the book about vacations and therapy!
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