Posted by Raindancer on September 7, 2004, at 17:44:26
In reply to confession regarding therapist..., posted by Pandabear on September 6, 2004, at 16:10:17
Please don't give yourself a hard time about driving past your T's house. The yearning for closeness can be very powerful - the trouble is that to do this often makes us feel more lonely, not less. I found out my T's address earlier in my therapy and having done so had such terrible guilt and gave myself such a hard time that it was easier to tell him than go on beating myself up. My greatest fear was that he would stop trusting me, but this didn't happen. He accepted it as something that had happened and pointed out that I hadn't harmed him in any way, nor did he believe I would. I think he felt I was more to be trusted as I had brought everything out into the open and was prepared to face any consequences.
You will know your T so you will know what feels best when you decide what to do. In fact I think we know our T's much better than some of their friends or relations, who know practical things about them but still may not have as close a relationship with them as we do.
When you terminate, could you and your T write to each other? This can be quite a comfort and I don't think it crosses boundaries. As far as i can tell it happens quite often. Don't let this upset you any more. Either tell your T or put it behind you. You haven't done any harm to anyone (except perhaps yourself) and all that happened was that you proved you were a human being. Take care. I know how much it hurts.Wishing you comfort and many hugs.
Raindancer
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